Submission works. It is unpopular in modern culture, and it is not the path of least resistants; it is mentally exhausting to remember to chose submission (especially today in America), and it is emotionally and physically exhausting to follow through with submission. But it is built into the design of marriage, fulfilling both the husband and the wife’s natural desires. When a husband feels respected he is fulfilled, and sooner or later comes toward his wife with gratitude and affection- when a wife feels closeness and affection she is fulfilled in return.
I know this, I’ve seen it firsthand numerous times, I believe it so strongly that I have a blog devoted to the subject, but I am often still too weak mentally, emotionally, and/or physically to make it happen as fully as it should. I mentioned working harder to be more submissive to Bruce these last few weeks. He isn’t ready to say that I’m being adequately submissive (and he’s right), but he commented that he can tell I’ve been trying harder at it, and that this has been nice. Slight as this may be, it makes me feel so good to hear him say that. I’ve fallen so far since our having babies, life getting crazy, etc., but I believe I am at least moving back in the right direction. I know it can be problematic to quite scripture in part rather than in full, but I’d like to highlight some of the verses in Proverbs 31:10-31 that address a wife of noble character:
Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies.
Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life.
She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life...
She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household
and plan the day's work...
She is energetic and strong, a hard worker.
She makes sure her dealings are profitable; her lamp burns late into the night...
She extends a helping hand to the poor and opens her arms to the needy.
She has no fear of winter for her household, for everyone has warm clothes...
She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.
When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.
She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness.
Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her...
Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last;
but a woman who fears the LORD will be greatly praised.
Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.
I think these verses are so powerful, and at least in part aptly describe all of the brilliant and beautiful women I know. I have a long way to go to achieve many of these descriptors, but I need to keep these verses in mind always, to focus on being a wife of noble character. I will read these verses often this week, and work to emulate them throughout my days. I need to do this because the Bible is divinely wise, and being a wife who is strong but submissive fosters happiness in marriage like nothing else can. Happiness in marriage is one of the biggest blessings this life can offer, and I want this for Bruce. I want it for me too :)