Sunday, September 9, 2018

Dear Bruce

Dear Bruce, I love you so much. Can you see how much from all of these blog entries on how to submit to you and allow you to be the dominant leader that you are? I hope so- I know women and men communicate differently, but it really is an expression of my devotion to you. Don’t worry, I don’t think we have a relationship issue that we need to discuss or anything, I know that is typically why I write to you. I just want to try communicating in a new way- via public blog post is definitely off the beaten path, right? It’s true, as we’ve discussed recently, that we are in a slight submission/dominance lull, but I think we’re really doing pretty well together overall; we’re currently in this weird sort of limbo phase (on top of the craziness of having two little toddlers and both of us working full time!), and even still we are regularly connecting and keeping up honest communication. Good for us, I say! I know that a lot of our health as a couple and as a family comes from the things that you do for me and for us. Even when things aren’t totally relaxed, you still always put in effort to be a good head of the house, and I love that. First of all you work to provide for us and make a better life for us, and that is a huge sacrifice; thank you. Thank you also for working to defend our time together as a family as much as you can. Thank you for playing with the kids and loving on them so much in the evenings after you’ve worked all day. It is so attractive to see how much they love you <3 Speaking of attractive, I love when you pray aloud with the family, and when you talk to the kids about God’s love and power. You are SO attractively dominant when you are leading in that way. I also appreciate how you set aside several nights a week to spend with just me. You even often organize the details for our date nights, and more significant than that you care enough to put your phone aside on those nights. And most of all, I so appreciate that you maintain our sex life so actively. As much as I enjoy and daydream about sex with you, I still fall asleep on the couch so many evenings, and as you know that puts me in a sleepy stupor when we head to bed. It makes me feel so loved and valued that you wake me more fully and initiate intimacy on so many of those nights. Our intimacy is so nice on our more intentional evenings, but we sure would be intimate less often if you would just let it go on all of those sleepy nights. And gesture aside, the sex itself is always pretty damn amazing! I definitely appreciate that a LOT :) Finally, I appreciate the way you dominate me. Thank you for making me watch my tone when I start talking to you in a way that neither of us want, and thank you for making executive decisions when I really don’t want to. Thank you for making me blog even when I don’t feel like it, because you know it helps me to take time to focus on this part of myself. Thank you for caring enough to express preference on what I wear for date nights when I ask. Thank you for spanking me when I need correction, and thank you for spanking me to remind me who’s in charge. Thank you for knowing that a hard spanking helps me more than a light one, even though that hurt a little to admit aloud... Thank you for knowing where my limit is even when I don’t. Thank you for knowing how much it helps me to take me past that limit sometimes, and thank you for taking the time to do that from time to time. Thank you for holding me tight after a harsh spanking. Thank you for the times during “aftercare” that you tell me that you love me and that I am forgiven. Thank you for wrapping your strong arms around me all through the night every night. I cherish that so much. I am so lucky to have a man like you. I know we are even more harmonious, attracted to each other, and fulfilled when we are on top of the dominance/submission dynamic, so out of gratitude for the many many things listed above I want to commit to submitting better than I have been lately. I’m going to specifically work on watching my tone and thinking before speaking, and I will also work on taking on more with the kids when we’re together so you can occasionally get a break from their crazy toddler ways :) Is there anything else you want me to work on right now? Please tell me if so. I am so thankful for you, my love. Thank you for all you do every single day, and thank you for loving me like you do. I cannot imagine how empty my life would have been if I had never met you, and I thank God for bringing us together. You are by far the best thing that could ever happen to me. I love you so. -Me :)


  1. Wow. Loved this. I almost felt like I was intruding on a personal moment, so I felt shy reading. But I loved it. What you describe is so beautiful. Makes me want to write my husband one on our blog too sometime. I mean, in the middle of a post I'll write a paragraph, but not like this. Thank you so much for being willing to share something so intimate.

    1. Thank you for the kind comment. I do think they miss out on hearing all of the amazing ways we appreciate them, just because it’s so easy to assume that they know. I say go for it, ha! Thank you again for the kind words :)